One thought becomes ten, ten becomes a full-blown argument, and suddenly you are replaying the past and catastrophizing the future before you have finished your coffee.
Clinical psychologist Dr. Claire Hayes joins Klaudia Mitura to offer a refreshingly practical alternative to the tired advice of thinking positive, one that works with your mind rather than against it.
Key takeaways:
- Positive Is Not the Same as Helpful: Dr. Hayes pushes back on forced positivity, making the case that an unhelpful thought dressed up as optimism does nothing to move you forward in a moment of genuine stress or fear.
- The ABC Coping Sentence: A simple three-part structure, Acknowledge, Because, Choose, helps overthinkers name what they are feeling, identify the thought driving it, and return to a small, steady decision in the moment rather than spiraling further.
- “I Choose” Changes Everything: The power of the ABC tool lies in that final word. Not “I should” or “I must,” but “I choose,” a quiet act of agency that interrupts the overthinking loop and opens the door to one helpful next action.
- You Don’t Need to Win the Argument: The goal is not to defeat your thoughts or replace them with better ones. It is simply to find one grounded, compassionate response you can act on right now.
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