The Buddhist Nun Who Says Self-Help Has It Backwards

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Host

Dan Harris

Guest

Ayya Santacitta, Buddhist nun trained in the Thai forest tradition of Ajahn Chah, teacher at Aloka Earth Room, and author of What Are You Waiting For?

What if the path to personal growth isn’t about becoming a better version of ourselves, but letting go of the patterns that keep us stuck?

Drawing on Buddhist teachings and her own life experiences, Ayya Santacitta explores how suffering, patience, relationships, and spiritual practice can help us respond to life’s challenges with greater awareness and freedom.

Key takeaways:

  • Rethinking self-improvement: Explore why Buddhist practice emphasizes letting go rather than adding more, and how unrecognized childhood patterns can shape our experiences and reactions.
  • Finding meaning in suffering: Hear how Ayya’s personal journey into monastic life, heartbreak, and the Buddhist understanding of suffering offer a different perspective on life’s difficulties.
  • Patience, relationships, and spiritual growth: Discover why patience is a practical skill, how uncertainty fuels impatience, and the importance of friendship, teachers, and devotion on the spiritual path.
  • Living with awareness in a troubled world: Explore earth-centered Buddhist teachings, the limits of trying to control external events, and how everyday situations can become opportunities to practice responding rather than reacting.

Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris offers practical tools and expert conversations for a calmer, more mindful life. New Episodes air every Monday, Wednesday and Friday.

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