Episode 64
Why do we sometimes pretend to be someone we’re not, even around the people closest to us?
Using Halloween masks as a metaphor, Dr. Arthur Brooks examines the psychology of emotional masking, its hidden costs, and how greater honesty can help us build more loving and meaningful relationships.
Key takeaways:
- The psychology of masking: Explore why we hide our feelings and when this becomes harmful to our well-being.
- Honesty over avoiding conflict: Discover why being truthful about our emotions can matter more than keeping the peace.
- Taking off the mask: Learn three approaches to becoming more authentic in everyday life.
- Love and connection: Explore how showing our true selves can help us give and receive the love we need.
Office Hours shares science-based strategies for building a happier, more meaningful life. New episodes usually air every Monday.



