In the fourth installment of her five-week series on the patterns that run our lives, Tibetan Buddhist teacher Lama Tasha Schumann turns to self-fixation, and how the habit of comparison and judgment quietly cuts us off from the very connection we crave.

Key ideas:

  • Curiosity as a Bridge: Open, non-judgmental curiosity can create connection across differences rather than reinforcing division.
  • The Trap of Comparison: Judging, labeling, or avoiding differences can prevent real understanding and weaken our sense of shared humanity.
  • The Wisdom of Equality: Letting go of comparison allows for a deeper form of connection, one that embraces difference while recognizing a shared human experience.

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